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Parents These Days of the Day: 15-year-old puts up normal teenage Facebook post bashing her parents for making her work too hard, dad reacts by posting a video response to her grievances on her Facebook page. (Make sure to stick around until the end for the video’s dramatic conclusion.)
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I LOVE THIS DAD. He just murkt any sense of self-entitlement his kid just had.
just want to say something because i have seen this on my dash and on facebook about a million times and i am on the verge of becoming disturbed
no. this is not ok. this is not an appropriate response for an adult.
if you’ve failed at being a parent to the extent that your teenage daughter is making posts like this, property destruction and implied violence aren’t appropriate responses. this is not how functional adult people behave.
ok i get it—the girl doesn’t respect her dad. however, in this 8+ minute video we learn that her dad feels obligated to invade her privacy, undermine her personal agency, and just generally has no trust in his own kid. so yeah, i understand why she doesn’t. respect is taught by PARENTS. it’s earned through actions and time. this girl’s frustrated rant PROBABLY implies that she doesn’t feel that her efforts are appreciated or that she’s an integral member of the family or household (alienation and over individuation is a huge problem for teens; it’s part of the formation of adult identity separate from parents and kind of a huge trap).
teens are rightfully frustrated because their entire existence is ridiculous; they’re expected to have adult behavior without the advantage of adult agency. maturity and decision making skills and LEARNED BEHAVIORS. if your kid is acting like a spoiled turd, where do you think they learned it from? if this girl is feeling entitled, what have her parents been doing HER ENTIRE LIFE to communicate the real value of what she has and should be grateful for?
also, asking for payment for work is not unreasonable; it’s an understanding of capitalism. a less asshat response than ‘are you out of your mind’ would be a basic rundown of the costs of the household in terms of food, heating, etc and what percentage of that the girl should reasonably be responsible for.
this girl is fifteen, meaning legally she probably can’t obtain most forms of employment. has she been educated as to what economic opportunities are available to her? because as a parent EDUCATING HER IS, IN FACT, YOUR JOB. you got her an application and made her apply? did you take her with you and teach her the process of how to obtain applications and where to look for places that are hiring? did you make sure the place you got the application from accepts underage employees (most do not) or walk her through the application process in terms of how to make herself an attractive applicant?
“when I was your age i’d moved out of the house, lived on my own, went to college while in highschool, worked two jobs, was a volunteer fireman.” uh alright, and you obviously did not manage to impart any of this work ethic to your own child. not to mention you grew up in an economic atmosphere about 30x less aggressive than the current one, AS A MAN. you are judging your daughter for having a different outcome than you had, when she sure as shit didn’t have the same input.
so now this girl decides to act out in a typical and trivial way: ranting and commiserating with friends. and even THAT outlet is being denied her. all the people above who liked and lauded this: would you think it was awesome if this girl was an adult woman who’d posted a frustrated rant about her significant other, and this was the significant other’s response? or would you consider this to be emotional abuse and a redflag for accelerating relationship violence? because that’s what this is: emotional abuse. this is abusive parenting (looks like it’s in the wake of/a response to earlier emotionally negligent parenting, too).
kids aren’t born to act like this. typically, it isn’t their fault. parental behavior causes this. this man is reaping the seeds he has sewn, and because he’s unsatisfied with what his efforts have yielded, he’s responding with aggression and punishment and social humiliation.
also worth noting: shooting in a residential area (which this clearly is) is not really ok at all either.
this is not something to be celebrated. property destruction and implied violence are not things to be celebrated. emotional abuse in response to shitty teen behavior that results from bad parenting in the first place is not something to be celebrated.
